I was listening to a local radio station on the way home the other day. There were 2 people talking about how facebook causes 1 in 3 divorces. My mouth just dropped, and I was appalled. These people were saying social media should be taken down and that they are basically evil. What happened personal responsibility and owning up to your own mistakes?
I think people need to think twice before posting personal information to the world but they shouldn't blame the medium. A person has a choice whether to post things or not. I think all the time about what I am posting. Sometimes I make mistakes and post things I shouldn't but mostly I only post things I would say to a crowded room or things that can't be used against me in a court of law. That might seem far fetched but it's not. I read about a case where a man's social medias were used against him in court dealing with a fatal accident; he had said he was a drunk to the world on a social media site. People lose their jobs for posting things, and people get in fights with family and friends because of information they post on social mediums. My personal rule of thumb is never post anything I wouldn't tell or show to a stranger or a casual acquaintance.
Back to the divorce topic, I googled about it and found numerous articles about facebook divorces. An article in Forbes is a recent article that talks about how Facebook flirting and comments cause 1 in 3 divorces. I think the article has some truth- people get confused about how safe social media really is. They think things are private but how private are the things you say on Facebook. Who says a friend isn't going to turn on you and are all the people on your friends list really friends. If you are going to be friends with exes or members of the opposite sex, make sure your spouse knows about and is truly okay with it. I don't do things my husband isn't okay with; we have a trust and he has all my passwords and is a friend on Facebook. I have seen turmoil in friend's marriages because their spouse got upset about someone who they are friends with. Social media isn't evil but it can indeed get you into trouble fast.
My advice, whatever it is worth, is to THINK THINK THINK about what you are posting on your social media sites. Would you be embarrassed if someone specific saw it? Don't post it. Is it bashing a friend or family member, especially your spouse? Probably shouldn't post it. Are you saying something you would never want your boss to know or you think could get you in trouble at the job? You shouldn't say it. You could move on and get past whatever it is you are posting about but that post will be there on the internet for all to see, maybe forever. If you need to vent or complain about something, find a close friend or 2 and vent to them. Don't do it on a social medium where all can see.
What are your thoughts?
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I agree. Personal responsibility seems to have gone out the window. Honestly though, if you're going to post something on the WWW, remember it's World Wide. Not private.
I've always gone by the same rule in concept, if I wouldn't say it on a stage, I won't say it on Facebook.
I agree personal responsability is the key! Once you put it out there on the internet. It's always out there Forever!
That being said I don't think one can blame Social media,for a divorce because no one is holding a gun to your head. You decided to do what you wanted to do. It come down to people talking responsability for one actions. No one wants to own up to that they rather blame facebook.
Wow, those stats are shocking!! This is really sad!
I am shocked that people still have not figured it out that what they post of facebook is there for everyone to see.... Common sense is dead...
I completely agree!! I never talk to anyone about anything on the internet that I wouldn't want everyone to know! Things can be taken out of context because it's through WORDS and you can't tell someones tone. I think people don't THINK about it though
If you've ever watched Divorce court, or even other court shows, it's always "well /heshe said this on FB so she/he must be cheating!" it's so annoying!
I think a lot of that is said for the shock factor.
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